Editor-In-Chief, Nick J Longo
THE BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE EVER, THAT LED MY FIANCEE AND I TO MARRIAGE, CAME FROM MY EX-GIRLFRIEND'S PARENTS!
The picture above is of my amazing bride-to-be, Christina, and myself when we took our engagement pictures — Thanks so much Lindsay A Mogle for doing an amazing job! (By the way, the wedding is July 22, 2017 — So soon!)
Christina and I have had an incredible relationship together and I’m so blessed and honored to soon be able to call her my wife. She is my best friend and we are on a mission to get each other to Heaven and take as many people as we can with us.
But our relationship hasn’t been so awesome just be us alone. It has taken commitment, prayer, communication — and a lot of great mentor-ship and advice along the way. All of this has help us so much on our journey in life together thus far.
And interestingly enough, the best relationship advice I have ever received — and that Christina and I have used and thought of throughout our relationship — came from one of my ex-girlfriend’s mother and father.
Yep, you heard that right, the best advice for dating and relationships that I have ever received — advice that has been and will always guide Christina’s and my relationship together — came from my ex’s parents! And God bless them for it!
It’s not where you’d expect me to find my best advice from — but hey, it’s the truth! Christina and I are so happy and blessed by it too.
— Talk Deep
You have to be able to go to the heart with someone you’re dating. Talk about your passions and joys. Share your dreams together.
This is really an awesome and joyful part of a relationship — being able to share the deep parts of your heart with someone, trust and be unafraid to do so feels so freeing and makes you feel like you matter and that you can accomplish anything in life.
And hey, make sure you don’t do all the talking — be sure to listen really well also! (I struggle with this, pray for me for the grace to listen better, I’d be super grateful for that.)
I wrote in a recent blog post, “My 3 Favorite Ways to Pray”, about how prayer is the deepest part of our soul.
It is essential to root your relationship in prayer and center it around God — to do and follow His will for both of your lives.
The goal of a relationship is to help each other grow in a deeper relationship with God so that you will both get to Heaven one day. Therefore, you have to push each other to pray — and to pray together — and “talk deep” with God on a daily basis. If you share your heart with God and grow in a relationship with him, you will learn to love so much more.
God’s Grace and Holy Spirit are so powerful and you need God at the center of your relationship — So start praying!
The Joker from “The Dark Knight” movie said it right when he said, “Why so serious!”
Your relationship is a serious thing, but don’t forget to enjoy it!
At times relationships can get heavy sharing all this deep stuff on your heart, but don’t let the heaviness of life sometimes overshadow the joy of being together!
Go have fun together — have a game night with friends, go for a hike, play tennis, go for a run, see a movie, do something fun that you both enjoy doing and be happy together!
Disclaimer: I just want to put this out there because my good friend and mentor, Justin Fatica, would probably be reading this right now thinking — “HEY! Don’t play to much and go having to much fun, no okey doking around” — and he has a point there, so listen to him.
— Be Intentional
My mentor, Justin Fatica, would say, “Don’t okey doke around!” Be intentional and manage expectations for each other.
This one is probably Christina’s favorite part of the advice (next to prayer, of course). Managing expectations and being intentional keeps everyone happy and keeps your relationship focused on what you should be focused on.
— Bonus: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!
Open and honest communication is key. You just can’t make it for the long-haul without it. So don’t hold anything in or bottle things up — communicate, communicate, communicate.
So there it is. The best dating advice I’ve ever received.
A big thank you to my ex-girlfriend and her parents for giving me the advice that helped Christina and I structure our relationship on a winning model to get each other to Heaven.
Hope this helps your relationship.
Let me know your favorite part of this advice, what you might add to it, or if you agree with it at all.
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